all women were bigger and stronger than you
and thought they were smarter
women were the ones who started wars
too many of your friends had been raped by women wielding giant dildos
and no K-Y Jelly
the state trooper
who pulled you over on the New Jersey Turnpike
was a woman
and carried a gun
the ability to menstruate
was the prerequisite for most high-paying jobs
your attractiveness to women depended
on the size of your penis
every time women saw you
they’d hoot and make jerking motions with their hands
women were always making jokes
about how ugly penises are
and how bad sperm tastes
you had to explain what’s wrong with your car
to big sweaty women with greasy hands
who stared at your crotch
in a garage where you are surrounded
by posters of naked men with hard-ons
men’s magazines featured cover photos
of 14-year-old boys
tucked into the front of their jeans
and articles like:
“How to tell if your wife is unfaithful”
“What your doctor won’t tell you about your prostate”
“The truth about impotence”
the doctor who examined your prostate
was a woman
and called you “Honey”
you had to inhale your boss’s stale cigar breath
as she insisted that sleeping with her
was part of the job
you couldn’t get away because
the company dress code required
you wear shoes
designed to keep you from running
And what if
after all that
women still wanted you
to love them.
Let me tell you something about love.
You might have read about it somewhere or seen it in those old films that you love. Those are beautiful fantasies that might never come your way. Love is a raw force and it has countless different faces. It could appear between a mother and her child, or a boy and his first puppy. You can find it between two people who’ve been together for the past 40 years. There isn’t a law powerful enough to stop it. It will keep evolving and growing more stronger.
I bet you are lay awake at 2 A.M in the morning, making up scenarios in which the love of your life sweeps you off your feet and you live happily ever after. Or maybe a kiss in the pouring rain after a heart-felt confession of how much they love you. That all is possible but do you know how much you waste by waiting for all of that? Countless days of waiting and wishing, hoping and dreaming. What if the one who’d love you until the end of times, walks past you the second you’re dreaming of someone else - someone better looking or more intelligent?
Love is never what you think it will be. It could be your friend or a complete stranger. Maybe the girl you’re denying your feelings for or your worst enemy? One day they just walk into your life and it’ll never be same again. That hard shell you’ve grown around you, will crack and in the end, break to pieces. You are scared helpless about opening up and telling your most embarrassing childhood memories to them, but you will. And it’s worth it. You create something beautiful and meaningful and suddenly, you feel more whole. You wait for your first kiss and the first time you’ll touch them. You wait for your marriage vows and your first born. And it’s all allowed. Time and actions you both make will make it all happen.
One day you’ll meet their family and friends. There’s no rush, though. Just let it happen and be yourself. Take a deep breath and calm down, you are enough. Even if the family and friends don’t like you, it doesn’t make you any less valuable in the eyes of your beloved. They see a part of you that their family and friends don’t.
Some days you feel scared and hopeless and you wonder why you are still here? Is it really worth it? You keep thinking what if’s and your mind is a mess. So, call them. Tell them how you feel. Message them. Skype them. Let them that your thoughts are circling and you feel lost. They might be able to help you. It doesn’t have to be much - just one word could be enough to make you feel better again. There are bad days among the good ones. You can’t escape the fights or sadness. You have to face them. After all, no storm lasts forever.
And you will change. You can try not to, but you will. You will lose a part of yourself and you never get it back, but it’s okay. You will get something in return. Love doesn’t leave you empty-handed.
Love will also break you and sometimes, leave you breathless and scared - and alone too. Feelings fade and change and people grow apart, that’s part of life too. But you have to try. The fears of rejection or break up are over-whelming but when you get past them, there are no limits for your love and strength. You will find something new within every love. Each time you learn something. It doesn’t have to be a big thing, even the smallest ones count. Love for experience and beautiful memories. Love for the little moments that matter. Don’t fall into regrets, that path leads you nowhere. Just take a chance and let it be.
The most important thing for you to remember is that there is always a chance. The most hopeless ones are allowed to dream. The ones who feel ugly have a right to be beautiful. The most shy ones can speak up and he loudest can fall silent when they reveal their true nature.
So, open your eyes and look around. In a blink of an eye, everything could change."